An Open Letter to the Neighbor Who Filed a Complaint against my Black Lives Matter Sign

Dear Neighbor,

I don’t know who you are, but you surely know me. We’re a pretty conspicuous family: two dads—one white and one Asian—and two young kids—one black and one Latino—who live right up the street from Thoreau Elementary. Maybe you’ve seen me reading on the porch while my kids play soccer in the front yard and maybe I’ve even said good morning to you as you walked by. I can’t be sure though, since I don’t know who you are.

Black Lives MatterTwo weeks ago, we put up a Black Lives Matter sign. Our eight-year-old black daughter was so excited. Our white neighbors across the street put one up too, and I think that meant a lot to our daughter. I know it meant a lot to me. So when we came home last week to find a letter jammed in our doorknob from the town Building Commissioner stating that an anonymous complaint had been submitted through an attorney against the display of our sign, I was disheartened.

After talking with the Building Commissioner and the Town Manager’s office, I understand the ways in which the posting of our sign technically violated zoning bylaws. And as I drive around town now, I can’t help but notice the other signs that are also clearly out of compliance: signs touting an open house at one of the expensive private schools in our town or the latest incentives to go solar. I wonder if those signs are prompting you to call your attorney and file another anonymous complaint.

I wish I could talk to you face-to-face. I wish I could tell you why this sign means so much to my family. I wish I could tell you the ways our children, currently in second and third grade, have been the victims of both implicit and explicit racism in our town. I wish I could tell you the ways that I faced discrimination in my position as a teacher at the high school. I wish I could tell you that although more often than not the people we encounter in this town—the teachers, the town officials, the shopkeepers, the families—go out of their way to show our family we are welcome here, this rarely takes the sting out of the experiences that consistently remind us that we have to work harder than most to achieve a sense of normalcy we thought would be commonplace in the suburbs.

And that’s part of why we put the sign up. Certainly, we wanted to draw attention and show support for the black people being killed in our country at alarming rates, but we also wanted to prove to our children—and by extension our neighbors, including you—that equality is something that matters to us. It’s not enough to just expect equality, and sometimes it’s not even enough just to work for it. We need to demand it.

I wonder if you understand what we mean by equality. We explain it to our kids as everyone getting what they need, not everyone necessarily getting the same thing. Surely you’re aware of the insanely high statistics for black deaths in this country, especially in relation to their white counterparts. Surely you’ve heard about the high profiles cases: Freddie Gray’s fractured spine, Michael Brown’s lifeless body left in the street for four hours, the tragic shooting of twelve-year-old Tamir Rice, and so many others.

When you see my son is bouncing a basketball in the driveway, do you see a younger version of these boys and young men? He has a head full of kinky hair and he likes to wear baggy basketball pants and sweatshirts with hoods. In a few years, he’ll look a lot like Trayvon Martin when he walks up the street at dusk to get a bag of Skittles at the 7-11 up the street. When my daughter was running through the sprinkler in her swimsuit this summer, did you see someone that might grow into the 14-year-old black girl that an overzealous police officer threw to the ground before drawing his gun last June in McKinney, Texas? These are the things we think about when we proclaim that black lives matter in the form of our simple lawn sign.

We’re not taking our sign down, although we will certainly make sure we strictly follow the town zoning bylaws from now on. And as a result of your complaint, I suspect you’ll see a few more signs around the neighborhood. I’m assuming you’ll still be able to pick out our house amidst the dozen or so Black Lives Matter slogans out there. We’ll be here if you ever want to talk.


368 thoughts on “An Open Letter to the Neighbor Who Filed a Complaint against my Black Lives Matter Sign

  1. I have no doubt if you had posted a sign saying “White Lives Matter”, this family would not have complained.

    I am a white woman born and raised in the South. Georgia, to be exact. Please do not insult me by telling me that racism does not exist. Puhlease! Are you kidding me? I am forced to see truck after redneck truck driving down the road every day sporting their stupid ” Rebel” flags. I pay taxes that help pave these roads. Where is my right to drive the streets of my town not having to see your vulgar flag? “My heritage”. ” I have a right to be proud of my heritage”. I am so sick of hearing that one, too. I bet more than 95% of these racists don’t have a clue who created that flag and why. Try googling it sometime. I am especially sickened by the so-called Christians that display this flag.

    @Gaysian Dad. I have never experienced prejudice. My Southern born mother was kind enough to teach love and acceptance rather than fear and hatred. She put an end to that family tradition. Thank you, Mom.

    I had a great science teacher in ninth grade. She explained to all of her students why we have different skin colors. The closer a country is to the equator, the darker the pigmentation. It is simply protection from the sun’s rays.

    Don’t try telling me that blacks are treated equally in the justice system. That is a joke! My mom worked for the local DA’s office for 6 years. A white man caught with an ounce of pot was likely to get probation while the same offense for a black man would get him jail time, more often than not. Why? More white folks could afford to PAY for an attorney while black folks couldn’t. Before you tell me that we are ALL afforded the same opportunities in the country, you need to take a closer look at the school systems. The predominant white schools often have more funding than the predominately black schools. That is reality.

    I could go on all night.

    I am deeply saddened by the hate that still exists in this country and very likely always will. I have witnessed prejudice and it is ugly and evil. As long as the self-righteous exist so will prejudice.

    I applaud you and your family making a stand. I will make that stand with you by putting the same sign in my yard. I dare someone to tell me I have to take it down.

  2. Must say; quite a moving piece. It’s actually moving to read such things… I mean, it gets the word out there. People must know we’re here to be in co-existence. All lives matter but one race has endured more abuse than others… I just hope the neighbour read this and saw that they’ve tried to temper with the foundation of a very stable building.

  3. I salute you for your letter. In a world today where discrimination is more prominent than it has ever been, we need to fight harder than ever to make our voices heard.

    I’m a minority in my own country in Singapore. And I feel very lucky that our government goves equality to all races present here in terms of benefits and others etc.

    But as a minority, we often get stereotyped for being somethig we are not by those who are the majority. It sucks sometimes and it doesn’t help that Singaporeans like to capture misdeeds that happen and post it online. This only aggravates someone’s wound whether they are the majority, minority, a foreigner or a victim.

    May things take a turn for the better.


  4. Some of these comments reaffirm why the BLM movement is necessary. Deep rooted racism is generational. People pass it down like a family heirloom. You have neighbors who probably disagree with every part of your family structure. You are seen as unorthodox when in todays age, many families look like yours. You have neighbors who were probably waiting for you to do something “wrong.” Someone posted a comment saying they didn’t see how your hispanic child could look black. Sigh. There is still so much to be learned. Still so much to be taught.

  5. Good for you for holding firmly to your beliefs! Whenever ignorance is confronted by enlightenment, it remains in the shadows and attempts to send agents to do the dirty work. There will never be a direct confrontation between you and this cowardly neighbor because they realize deep down that their argument holds no water. Xenophobia is based on fear and ignorance and must be hidden or it falls apart lacking it’s own merits. Explains the white hoods.

    You’re parents and you should always show support for your children. We teach them everything by our actions and the strength of our convictions. What lesson is your neighbor teaching their children I wonder?

  6. Black lives? No. HUMAN LIVES MATER! It’s not the color of their skin that makes your children’s lives and well being important. Garet had to endure years of abuse from his lesbian mother. He overdosed. Nobody in suburbia stepped in for him because it may look like gay bashing rather than child welfare. It’s not ok because he was white, it’s not ok because he was straight. These details do not make this child’s pain less important than another because he was human to. Maybe it’s time we take the lines out of the sand and stand up as a WHOLE culture for HUMAN RIGHTS.

    • Yes Black lives DO matter! If skin color didn’t determine social equity in society, why did it take the passage of major legislation (13th, 14th, and 15th amendments) and subsequent Civil Rights Act of 1964, just to prove that Human Beings were… well Human Beings?

      • You think it was only the people with extra melanin that leads to one group of people being deemed lesser? Look up the term “Slavic” some time. According to the times it was given to those pale people in the mountains, they were less than human so they were suitable for slavery. That’s right, a major portion of white Europe is is still basically called “slave land” to this day, not because the greco-roman world knew nothing of other pigmentation, but because that group was easier to dominate en mass at the time. Was it ok to do that? No, any time you call a human less than human it’s wrong. think it’s all pre-America? Try again. The Irish were also brought in as less than human as well as the Acadians. After all, if the inferior to human groups of Europe died in the wilderness with those other savage people who were there to begin with, who cares? they weren’t real people, right? I mean it’s not like they were proper Catholics or anything. That’s why so many protestants got dumped in the new world to. they weren’t real humans so it was ok if they died. The native tribes of the land had the misfortune of living where other people wanted to farm, so it’s ok to kill them, they are not real humans.

        WOW! This nation sure was built on the backs of those who were lesser beings. The differences were often far less obvious then a skin color or hair texture, but they were all written of by culture as disposable.

  7. i love this letter and i love the sentiment and perseverance described in it even more. i’m happy there are parents like you and your partner, raising conscious children – it gives me hope for the world mine will be born into when the time comes. thank you and i hope you’re never discouraged to keep fighting the right fight, no matter what prejudice or injustice you are faced with! i’m fighting the same fight with you; godspeed to those who aren’t.

  8. Cheer up!!! Send you all my good energy…understand that people may get too bored sometimes, their lives are too poor, and it’s not about the money. Enjoy your kids! That will be the best revenge. You have a lot of supporters

  9. It’s nice to know that even though you are not African American you have respect for the culture and you understand that it is not just a black thing . Racism is very much alive and it makes you an outstanding citizen that you chose not to add to the problem.

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  11. ’m so glad you wrote this response to that letter. It just serves as another reminder that racism isn’t dead, but that some of the attacks have become more subtle.

    • When talking about problems facing black people, why shouldn’t black people use the words black lives matter? Presumably you believe they do. Why is that a controversial statement? Nobody’s saying other lives don’t, just that black lives should be treated like they do, when so often they aren’t.

      • The problem with the statement is that it’s actively reinforcing the concept that black people are separate but equal. In this case it may be used by blacks, but it’s still the same division Mr. King was fighting against when he spoke out against injustice. It takes attention away from people of higher pigmentation being every bit as human as anyone else, and so it takes attention away from existing human rights laws that should be protecting the very people who feel persecuted.

        Martin Luther King, Jr. started something important to humanity, but as long as we cling to labels like ‘black’ and ‘white’, his beautiful dream of people who treat people like people remains unattainable.

        People are getting hurt. People are being mistreated. People should be offended by injustice, always. It’s not a matter of skin color, it’s a matter of humanity.

      • Your separate but equal point is an interesting one. I’ll give it some thought. The point is that black lives aren’t being treated as fully human, which is why I support it, but I think you’re right that there may be a risk of legitimizing a separate but equal mindset.

        I do think, though, that the problem isn’t black people clinging to labels, but existing, persistent, systemic racism. It will be there whether we speak up about it or not.

  12. You should be proud of your sign- it’s YOUR message on how you view the world. But I want to say something and hope I don’t offend you.

    As a white, southern woman I tense up when I hear families talk about the “conversation”. Not because I’m closed off or ignorant about the discrimination in our country but because it sends, in my opinion, the wrong message. It says that because of the color of your skin you need to be more aggressive in your rights, you can blame people that had no part in the horrible acts your race was put through, you need to be aggressive about your skin, and that you need to be more sensitive when people don’t like you. I hate that any child or person feels the hate of discrimination. You are NOT your skin color nor your family make-up nor your background- you are ONLY what your actions make you to be. While I grew up in a fairly small town we saw very few acts of discrimination or racism- even though we had a very broad demographic. Growing up- people were people and the only way you put them in a category was because of their actions- white, black, Asian, gay, lgbt, etc. I know that’s not the “real world” but I also believe that it should be.

    While I believe that any murder whether committed by cop or civilian is wrong- I have a hard time saying or believing that blacks are being targeted unfairly because of the color of their skin. So I’ll tell you why I believe that:

    When I was a younger adult, I was a white woman living on the poor side of town in a predominantly black community. I had a young daughter and when we moved in the older generation of that community came and introduced themselves. We would mingle on the sidewalk, help out a sick neighbor, or show up at holiday dinners. My daughter and I were the only white people there and you know what I felt? Loved, respected, and I felt accepted- until one evening. One evening my daughter and I were out walking and talking like we always did- nothing out of the ordinary. We waved to neighbors and chatted. On our way back to our home we were stopped and harassed by a group of young black men. We, my daughter and I, we’re called horrendous names, gestured at inappropriately, and followed home. I’d never been more terrified in the 6 months we’d lived in that neighborhood than I was that night. I didn’t DO anything for that, just like many blacks don’t DO anything for the way they are treated. I’ve lived all over the south and have lived in very mixed neighborhoods but that one night keeps me out of black neighborhoods- not because I hate them but because I FEAR FOR MY safety. I’ve never accosted or treated someone the way I was treated.

    I’ve never spouted about the fact women are degraded, assaulted, and murdered because we are seen as less than. I’ve never marched in the street, burnt businesses to the ground, or acted inappropriately because I’m a female and we are victims more times than not. Want to know why? Why I see the #blacklivesmatter as a way to continue to tear up our communities? Because teaching children to always EXPECT racism or inequality means that they won’t DO better. It means that this same blame game is going to continue to go round and round and unless someone steps up and CONTINUALLY EXPECTS MORE- it’s never going to change. Those black men never blinked about accosting us. They thought they had every right because of someone I’ve never met did something horrible to someone they’ve never met.

    Racism and discrimination will only continue to go on as long as those who have the voice preach violence. It will only continue as long as someone else is to blame for the problems of others. I’ve never beat a slave, spoke racial slurs, or even judged someone solely based on the color of their skin- only on their actions. The communities are responsible for how their young men and women act- the parents, grandparents, teachers, coaches, pastors, and council members. If you want better for your children it starts with the “conversation”. It shouldn’t be centered around hate and racism but should always start out with- be a good person, do the right things, follow the law, be a productive member of society and no one will care about the color of your skin because in reality- that’s the truth. I know more black people who hate white people than I know whites who promote racism. The words in our communities need to be about closing the racial gap than making it wider, deeper, and more dangerous to cross.

    Your sign is right #blacklivesmatter. The only truthful way to make it that way is to teach young black men and women that THEIR LIVES matter first! If they don’t have respect or honor for themselves and others- how can others give them the same?

    • I don’t even have the words for how much blindness, whitesplaining, and privilege is in this post. I think because you’re a good person – and I believe you are – you think that your point of view is the correct one. But you very clearly don’t see the racism taking place around you, and are arguing that because you don’t see it, it doesn’t exist.

      So I’m just going to say a few things in response as they come to me:

      * Having a bunch of great experiences with black people, then being afraid to go into black neighborhoods because of a bad experience, IS RACIST. Not because you didn’t have a bad experience, and not because you don’t have a right to be afraid, but because you a generalizing about entire communities because of the shared skin color they have with the people who scared you – DESPITE having had positive experiences in those communities. You wouldn’t generalize that way about white people. Why are you doing it to black people? And how can you not see that that’s EXACTLY the sort of problem that contributes to systemic racism?

      * You don’t get to tell black people who they are or how they get to experience having black skin.Black people live that experience. Telling them how they should feel about it is deeply condescending.

      * Saying that you didn’t have acts of racism in your small town is good evidence that you didn’t SEE acts of racism in your small town. But as we just established, you don’t even see your own act of racism you referenced in this post. White poeple in general can be pretty blind to racism. Saying “I don’t see racism” is a pretty unconvincing argument when there are MOUNTAINS of evidence that racism takes place every day.

      * Ditto about black people being targeted. Believe what you want – the statistics say they’re much, much more likely to be shot by the police. Particularly when they’re unarmed.

      * Saying that teaching children to expect they’re going to encounter racism causes them not to want to do better is victim blaming. There is racism. People encounter it. Telling kids to prepare themselves isn’t telling them not to try to do well in life, it’s telling them to be prepared to face the very real additional obstacles they’re going to face solely because of their skin color. In fact, a very common part of the conversation involves telling kids to work extra hard so that they can overcome these obstacles. That’s not preparing them not to do better. That’s preparing them to succeed in a world that doesn’t treat them like they matter as much as white people.

      * Unless there’s more to the story (and there might be; I don’t know), you don’t know that those black men accosted you because someone you’ve never met did something terrible to someone they’ve never met. You’re projecting. And I should point out that attitude suggests you believe racism is over – one of the many reasons for their behavior may be that they’ve been treated very poorly themselves (although not by you. If that was their motivation, that was an act of prejudice. But it’s not the same as being angry about something happening to someone else. Just because slavery is over doesn’t mean black people aren’t sometimes treated incredibly poorly because of their skin color.)

      * By placing the responsibility for the well being of young black people solely on black communities you’re whitewashing the responsibility of wider society for creating a culture that marginalizes black people. Not speaking up in the face of oppression doesn’t stop oppression. Speaking up stops it, as we saw just yesterday when black students succeeded in ousting the president of the University of Missouri because he was unresponsive to their needs. That’s standing up to impression, not spouting off.

      *And here’s the last thing. You said:

      “If you want better for your children it starts with the “conversation”. It shouldn’t be centered around hate and racism but should always start out with- be a good person, do the right things, follow the law, be a productive member of society and no one will care about the color of your skin because in reality- that’s the truth.”

      That’s DEEPLY IGNORANT AND CONDESCENDING. Plenty of people care about the color of people’s skin. Check the racist nonsense all over Twitter. Go read the forums at Stormfront. Go check the Southern Poverty Law Center’s statistics on hate groups. Go look at the rhetoric coming out of the anti-immigration movement. Go listen to the students at the University of Missouri talking about their experiences being judged because of their skin color. Why do you think your experience as a white women puts you in a better position than black people to understand the challenges black people face because of the color of their skin? Even if you legitimately don’t have unconscious biases – and I’m sorry, but this post suggest that you very much do – how do you explain all these other white people openly admitting they have problems with skin color? How can you place the blame on black people just for talking about that?

      OK, I said that was it, but there’s just so much here. Look. Maybe you know some black people who hate white people. I mean, I’ve never met a black person who does, but maybe you have that bad luck. It seems more likely to me that you know black people who speak up about the treatment they receive, and that makes you uncomfortable.

      Lastly (for real, though), you understand that the point of #BlackLivesMatter is *exactly* that their lives matter? That they should honor themselves and believe that they have value? And that they should expect society to do the same?

      Maybe it will help to check out the values statements at the Black Lives Matter site, since you seem to have some confusion on this point:

      I sincerely hope that helps. You seem well meaning. It’s hard to hear, but if this post is any indication, you’ve got some pretty heavy duty blinders on. I hope you’ll explore the sites I mentioned above.

    • “That one night keeps me out of Black neighborhoods … because I FEAR FOR MY SAFETY.”

      So what you’re saying is, you have pre-judged all of the people in black neighborhoods because of something that a few men they’ve never met did to you years ago? Huh. Got it.

      I think you need to reevaluate your logic. Also, let me enlighten you a bit: minorities do not have to “teach” their children about racism. Their children experience it, live it and breathe it on their own. Systemic racism exists in our country, and the only ones who don’t see it are the ones who choose to pretend it does not exist. Of course ALL lives matter. “Black lives matter” is not exclusionary because one does not preclude the other. Saying that “Black lives matter” does not mean that other lives do not. You know that. You don’t like the message it implies because you think it implies racism. It absolutely does, but not in the way you’re thinking. It doesn’t imply that Black people are racist against White people. What is implied is thatBlack lives matter, too. It is a reminder to a society that seems to have forgotten. It is a reminder of the implicit racism that still exists like a cancer in our society. You don’t want to talk about racism because it hasn’t touched your life. I get it. But you don’t get to sit up on your high horse and pontificate on things which you know nothing about. You don’t know what kind of conversations are being held in minority homes. You don’t know what kind of life lessons are being taught. You don’t know what is being done in Black communities. You said it yourself, you avoid them in fear of your safety.

      You, ma’am, are part of the problem. I hope you enjoy your white privilege. It’s your legacy, after all.

  13. As a former student of yours I wanted to give you my support and praise you as both a great teacher and father. For all the people saying all lives matter. Concord is one of the few towns which still embodies the abusive history of colonialism. Great to see that you are helping the town to progress and break free of the privileges which colonialism resulted in.

  14. Great letter and great job saying what had to be said. I don’t know what city you or state you are from but I wanted to say that I support you and congratulate you for your efforts to make this world a better place.

  15. I love this letter and I really applaud your grace and humble manner you handled this situation with. The world needs more people like you and your family, as easily as this couldve turned into an ugly rant and strayed away from the message, it never did. You did not let this jerk take your out of your character and that I admire. 💋

  16. It’s sad but true the way people are these days. But I think sometimes (not always) it can happen with a lot of different races. Making your daughter feel loved is definitely something that’s important. I’m reading a few of the posts and it is interesting what people say. Until we live in someone else’s shoes, we cannot understand how it is to be that specific race. Good luck to you!!!!

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  18. What an amazing dad you are! As a biracial woman I can tell you how much your cherishing the race/culture of your little ones means to their development. Bravo! Showing them how to speak up and stand up for what’s right is a lesson many never learn. Bravo!

  19. Reblogged this on Donna Westbrook and commented:
    This article is was mentioned in history class and discussed by a few students, including myself. I knew I had read it somewhere. I would like to re-post it as it is very relevant for my class, and also because I care about equality for all.

  20. You should be able to put your sign in your yard – free speech. Vote some better city leaders into office to remove those zoning ordinances.

    I take issue with one remark about equality – “I wonder if you understand what we mean by equality. We explain it to our kids as everyone getting what they need, not everyone necessarily getting the same thing.”

    Is that really what you teach your kids – that they are entitled to “get” something? Equality is everyone having the same opportunity. It’s up to you to use that to get what you need. You come across as typically modern materialist gimme generation – as if someone needs to give you something to make everything okay.

    I also think, to be intellectually honest about the issue – “Surely you’re aware of the insanely high statistics for black deaths in this country, especially in relation to their white counterparts.” should be followed with the statistics for who predominately kills black people in this country – other black people.

    A few cops make mistakes, a few cops are racist, but cops aren’t the problem. Crime in black neighborhoods is the problem. Maybe it’s because they’re taught they’re entitled to stuff they really aren’t that makes people angry and resort to crime to get their stuff.

    All Lives Matter.

    • High crime in black neighborhoods is a product of under-education, poverty, and the lack of employment resources. Our nation’s children, all of them, need the opportunity and the education to provide for themselves and their families.

    • Mr. A D Hall, I like your use of the terms “a few” and “insanely high”. The statistics on both black on black crime and white on white crime show “insanely high” rates. The percentage difference is about ten points: 90’s for blacks and 80’s for whites. Since you’re comfortable with “a few”, this difference does not matter. Whites and blacks are both guilty of the same thing and to the same extent. You say “cops make mistakes, a few cops are racist,”. A mistake is something you did not do deliberately. BLM and supporters highlight police deliberate wrongdoing, not police mistakes. Eric Garner is a good case in point; I have the videos for this and all of the others where videos are available. The policeman’s deliberate action matters, not his racism; but in any case, how would you know that only “a few cops are racist”? “They’re taught they’re entitled to stuff they really aren’t”; who teaches blacks that? During and after the civil war, there was much talk between the gentry on either side about entitlement to “free labour” from a certain sector of the society who were not welcome to membership, not presence, of that society, but whose forced, unpaid for labour was bloodily fought over. Entitlement to forced, unpaid labour? Please read Jim Crowe, David Duke and company. KKK membership fee used to be ten dollars in Senator Robert Byrd’s time, was that an entitlement fee? American history is great reading, great entitlement. Peace be with you

      • I didn’t say “insanely high” – that was a quote from the article. I just wanted to point to the fact we have a segregated society in many respects regardless of what government attempts to do – it even shows up in the crime statistics. There is no excuse for white on white crime either – it just wasn’t part of the topic.

        I do say a “few” referring to police, because I believe from my own experience they are generally well trained to keep emotion from clouding job performance in high stress situations and do a good job at it. Police are human, so there are some bad humans in the police and mistakes made, like everywhere. Institutionally, I think they are trying to do the right thing – but then I don’t live in Chicago or St Louis, so I could be wrong.

  21. With all due respect I feel…this is straight forward and very bold of the writer..I love how you gave out your piece of mind and at the same time tried to teach anoda human being to care for others and stop being a dick….

  22. I have to openly disagree with black lives matter. We all matter, each and every one of us. Try a sign that says Human life matters.

    • Then you agree with Black Lives Matter. Their lives are among all the human lives that matter. The thing is, black people’s lives aren’t treated like they matter, so we’re calling attention to that.

      Saying Black Lives Matter isn’t saying other human lives don’t. It’s calling attention to the fact that black lives are routinely treated like they don’t matter.

      Why do you feel a need to tell people not to say that? Why not ask why they feel it’s important to say Black Lives Matter, instead of insisting they don’t?

      • I believe. We pay to much attention to the color of skin. Forget the fact we are all human and bleed the same color. All human life matters. Proclaiming only black lives matter. Is far from reality. Each race kills no matter the race, gender or color. They are no better than anyone sitting next to them. Each one of us make choices, each one of us, can help each other. Minus, the separation of color.

      • By seperating your doing nothing but fueling racism. Why not have a sign. That says. Help each other. No matter the color, gender, race. Human life, all is important. Not just them, or whites. We all matter. Every last one of us.

      • In my home sir, black, Hispanic and race, color or gender. Is not seen. Only the person’s heart. That’s how most should be. Blacks are not killed more than any race. They kill each other more than any race. Detroit is an example. Their race has chosen a path that only they can sway off from. That’s their choice. Their beliefs. Many innocent lives all across the globe have been lost. Not just blacks.

      • Widow78–Of course all lives matter. Everybody agrees with that. The problem is that people, especially the media, have been interpreting the sentiment as “Black Lives Matter More.” A better understanding would be “Black Lives Matter TOO” (or maybe “Why don’t Black Lives Matter?). The issue is that at the moment, and historically, black lives have been treated as though they matter less or not at all.

      • Saying black lives matter isn’t saying only black lives matter. It’s saying black lives matter too, but they’re not being treated that way. That needs to stop.

        Abraham Fisher lays it out in his comment.

      • And the statistics are cleared that blacks are killed by law enforcement – which is the focus of the movement – at a much higher rate than other races. That’s the point. Saying black people aren’t more at risk of being shot by law enforcement is just factually incorrect.

        And while it’s true that when black people are murdered by non law enforcement officers the murderers are more often black, that’s true of every other group of people as well: white people are killed by white people. Asians are killed by asians. That’s because we live in a segregated society, and when people kill people, it tends to be people around them.

        Finally, you say this: “Their race has chosen a path that only they can sway off from.”

        That’s painting all black people with one brush. A race doesn’t choose a path. People make choices. People choose paths. So any statement that attributes a choice to a race as a whole is inherently racist.

      • Roane 242 you’re so correct. A good example of one of the points you make is seen in the level of injury and death caused by Arab terrorists against other Arabs. This does not mean that Arabs hate themselves.
        Statistics show that the level of white on white crime is almost equal to the level of black on black crime. It’s in the 90’s for black on black crime and in the mid or late 80’s for white on white crime.

      • Saying black lives matter is a racist slur. Seperating them from the human race and paying only attention to the color of ones skin.

      • Widow78, “Separating blacks from the human race and paying only attention to the colour of their skin”? you know only too well the elements who, have been, are and always will be, prone to think and act along that line. Those elements do not represent white people, they only represent their wicked selves, and they are in the minority of the white race at that. whites are good people.

      • Your comments make no sense. All races are good people. All races have a few bad apples in the bunch. That’s indisputable.

      • “Saying black lives matter is a racist slur.”

        Are you drunk? I don’t even know where to begin parsing that logic.

        “Seperating them from the human race and paying only attention to the color of ones skin.”

        THAT would be racist. Of course, that has nothing to do with saying Black Lives Matter. Black people are lots of things. They’re complete, whole, unique human beings, just like everyone else. Each of them matters.

      • I think your mistaken. Twisting people’s words. Black lives matter as much as any other human being. I think you forget there’s on race. The human race. So take your pathetic belief, somewhere else. Twisting people’s words. Make you no better than a liar.

      • Anyone supporting black lives matter. Putting bridges between them and other races. Are clear and utter racists and your no better than pushing segregation instead of acceptance. Your black lives matter, simply segregated them once again. Sad thing is simple minds such as yourself have not a clue that’s exactly what your doing. Separating them from one race, the human race and reflecting souly back into the color of their skin.

  23. I support you on this! I have come to find that many of my Facebook friends get offended by #BlackLivesMatter. Their reasoning? It is because #AllLivesMatter, while I haven’t stated my opinion to them… But Black Lives Matter NEVER said no other lives matter. I respect you greatly for not taking your sign down, as well as your fellow neighbors!

  24. You make so many strong statements that many do not even think when they complain. Especially the part where you mention that many go out of the way to show support and that your family is welcome but it doesn’t change the hurt when you are receiving some very hateful words and actions. That’s a great point that I believe others should understand.

    You and your family are obviously doing a wonderful job to help better our future!

  25. Good on you for sticking up for something that everyone should believe in. It’s strange to realise that racism STILL seems to be so ingrained for some in America, as is homophobia and xenophobia. Your neighbour clearly needs to “take a walk in your shoes”, or the shoes of your family, as the arguments that you make for the sign in your post are so convincing. Good luck, and I hope your neighbours come around 🙂

  26. Pingback: An Open Letter to the Neighbor Who Filed a Complaint against my Black Lives Matter Sign | Unchain the tree

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